Monthly Archives October 2012

Safewords

October 31, 2012 Uncategorized  8 comments

I was talking to someone at Kinky Kollege and I confessed that I rarely played with established safewords.

Responsible, didactic, insistent me.

I used to mention them, have the submissive tell me what their safeword was, do all the things that I myself say you’re supposed to do.

Over time, though, that became less and less important to me, had less value and merit.

It seemed to me that the habit of establishing some outlandish word I expected someone to remember in a moment of sudden panic was, to be blunt, silly.  It implied that if the submissive I was playing with said “No!” or “Stop!” that I would not, not until they remembered to say “Eggplant!”

A sort of BDSM version of Simon Says or Mother May I?

Now that I’ve said that, let me say this.

There are submissives who wa...

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Bright Idea

October 30, 2012 Uncategorized  4 comments

I had this bright idea that I would start posting some writing I worked on for a while, some time back, a pretty long piece, actually.

I could serialize it, in effect, meaning I have something in backup if I don’t want to write or don’t have time to do a blog.

So, I started looking.

Clearly, based on this blog, I didn’t find it.

I did, however, spend enough time looking that it’s now really too late to do much else.

I am going to keep looking, I virtually never lose a file like that, but it’s hard now because I can’t remember the name of a single character other than there was a cat named Stiletto.

Of course, I can also not remember the name of it.

Thus far, using those parameters, I haven’t found it yet.  I have an old hard drive I haven’t looked on, and an external drive.

I have disks, ...

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Kinky Kollege Komplete

October 29, 2012 Uncategorized  4 comments

Won’t we all be glad that this is the last time, I hope, I will feel compelled to misspell words to continue a theme.

So, I have some final thoughts on Kinky Kollege, now that I’ve had a full day to recoup.

I came home with three new toys, a split rattan slapper, a window blind handle that I found in the garbage, and a black fiberglass cane with a turned steel handle from Toolworks.

I looked today, in fact, when I put it away, at my inventory of Toolworks toys.  I have two small floggers, cock whip size, and a thick paddle-sized slapper, two clear synthetic canes and the new black one – and they’re all different thicknesses, too, should that seem a bit excessive – and one that now has red braided cat falls but originally held a horsetail flogger.

Horsetail is a really interesting sensatio...

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Kinky Kollege Kreshendo

October 28, 2012 Uncategorized  5 comments

Ok, so that’s a pretty bad title, but hey, it’s late and I’ve been in a car for something like six hours today.

I had my last class this morning, a class called Dancing on the Edge, which is about, unsurprisingly, Edge Play.

One of the things I’d like to do over the winter, when I don’t foresee traveling much, is to update and improve my class notes.

I have them all on my hard drive, of course, but they’re not organized in a way that really works anymore, and I have been doing some of them long enough that I use the full notes a lot less and what I really need for all of them is something more like a bulleted outline.

Which I should also transfer to Power Point presentations, too, that have those same bulleted outlines, because then I could actually carry a lot less paper when I travel, to...

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Kinky Kollege Kontinued

October 28, 2012 Uncategorized  No comments

Today has been a pretty busy day.

My first class today was the class for newcomers, which I do a lot and
always enjoy doing. It’s always interesting to see the people who
come in to that class, and what they’re novices TO, as well.

We had some folks who were part of their local munches and some who
were not. There weren’t, they said, munches or gatherings where they
lived, though that’s always hard for me to believe now days, but
perhaps it’s true.

We talked about going to events, and trying to attend the classes you
can. We talked, too, about trying a lot of different things when
you’re new, and reaching out to people who have been around longer.

Overall, I thought it was an interesting class that went well.

I had a break between my class and the next commitment, so I wandered
through the vendor ...

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Kinky Kollege

October 26, 2012 Uncategorized  5 comments

slave drew and I arrived at Kinky Kollege this afternoon in good time.
The drive wasn’t bad, other than that middle-of-Chicago part where it
takes a half hour to go three miles.

It was very Chicago-like.

We saw Jack Rinella first, at the registration desk. We’re at a very
nice Hyatt.

We got to the room and got somewhat settled, then went downstairs to
the registration for the event. We got through that and then went to
the restaurant upstairs to get a late lunch. drew had a lovely pasta
with goat cheese and I had a bowl of lobster bisque with blue crabmeat
in it.

It was quite nice.

Then we scurried up to the room to grab the bags of crops and canes
for the class I was giving at 4:00 on, yes, crops and canes.

So, we are heading to the classroom and walk by a couple or three bags
of trash wa...

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Off to Chi-Town

October 25, 2012 Uncategorized  4 comments

So, slave drew and I head out tomorrow for Kinky Kollege, at which I am presenting.

I am doing a class on Canes and Crops, and one on Edge Play, as well as a Newcomer’s Class.

I still haven’t gotten a demo bottom for the canes class.  I can have drew do it, of course, but I will likely just ask for a volunteer and I doubt I will have to ask twice.

It’s only the second time I’ve done the Canes and Crops class, but it was a lot of fun last time and I’ve been doing impromptu cane classes for years anyway, so a lot of it isn’t really new, I just haven’t done the class formally.

The edge play class is fun, partially because it’s not the class people expect...

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Mr. Bluegrass Leather 2012

October 24, 2012 Uncategorized  2 comments

I spent last Saturday night in Lexington, Kentucky.

I watched Sam Clemons step down from the Mr. Bluegrass Leather title, and watched Todd Maynard awarded the title of Mr Bluegrass Leather 2012. Todd will go on to International Mr. Leather in May.

It was a great event and I was sorry to miss the Friday night Meet and Greet, which was held at Crossings Bar, one of the sponsors. It was, to quote a friend who went, “packed,” and a good time was, I feel certain, had by all.

I got to town with Robyn from Indy, who is the current Indiana Olympus titleholder, about 2pm. We ended up riding together, which was nice.

There was a great buffet contributed by Ms Tammy, and we sat and ate and chatted for a while, then the outgoing titleholder roast began...

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Fringed

October 23, 2012 Uncategorized  2 comments

We had a Board meeting tonight for Fringe Elements.

We’re putting on a play party on November 30, but we’ll be doing some different things, too. We’ll have more vendors this time, for one.

We’ll have a kinky Santa available to have pictures taken with, either on his lap or across it, complete with kinky elf and Ms Clause. I believe the names assigned were Santa-Homo and Panty Clause.

The gay guy playing Santa, Josh, came up with the Santa-Homo name, no letters, please.

I have claimed my holiday identity of Candy Cane. You know my fondness for canes, after all.

We’ll have a bootblack, and play equipment, and some silent auction items, as well as another bake sale, because everyone, after all, likes cookies.

I’ll also be presenting Earned Leather there...

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Questions for Dominants Review

October 22, 2012 Uncategorized  4 comments

I was surprised when I just looked to find that I seem to have gone through all my questions. I don’t know if that’s good or bad that I didn’t know.

I think this was at least an interesting exercise for me. I don’t know that it was particularly enlightening for anyone else, but it you pays your money and you takes your chances, as they say.

I suspect I might do a similar sort of thing again in a bit, but I’ll probably focus on a different topic, like relationships or community. We shall see.

I haven’t finished processing the weekend yet, so I’ll give that another day to stew around.

We’ll do another party for the community center, Fringe Elements. It should be a fun event, and we’ll meet tomorrow to plan it. The last one went well and we’ve made some improvements for the next time.

We...

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