Monthly Archives October 2012

Questions for Dominants 09

October 10, 2012 Uncategorized  3 comments

10.   Do you have close friends of your own orientation?  How many of your close friends share your orientation and gender?

One of the reasons I think this question is interesting is two-fold.

One is, I think men as a rule have fewer friends, or at least close friends, than women, and also underestimate how important friends are.

Two is, I think one of the ways you judge someone is by their friends, and if they have no friends of their own orientation, that doesn’t necessarily mean anything bad, but I think it’s worth noting.

Women have friends, I think, because we like to share, that’s how we connect.

Men, I think, don’t look at friendships so much as we do.

So, yes, I have friends of my own orientation.  I would list Ms Tammy and Ms Kendra as two of my closest friends.

They are both ...

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Kink on Camera

October 9, 2012 Uncategorized  6 comments

I read an interesting post that caused me to think about how we’re presented on tv.

The blog post is here – from Pandora Blake’s blog.

She talks about watching a currently popular show, Castle, coming to the conclusion that the Nathan Fithian character is “sexually submissive.”

I suppose the thing that most interested me first in reading it was the fact that I’ve watched the show off and on and never picked it up.

I’m going to have to go back and re-watch.  I don’t know that I watched the early episodes and we all know that sometimes television shows box their characters in, make them more and more what they are as the show becomes more popular.

It did remind me, though, of how little there really is on television, and in popular media, that really represents – or interests, or speaks to ...

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Questions for Dominants 08

October 9, 2012 Uncategorized  5 comments

9.      What is the quality you find hardest to deal with in a submissive, on a personal level?

Actually, I find the same quality hard to deal with on any level.

I hate brats.

I really seriously do.

I am more than fine with confident and competent submissives.

I am good with a submissive that has opinions, even those strongly held, even if they are at odds with my own.

What I cannot stand is a submissive with a smart mouth and a defiant kind of attitude.

Now, if you like that and your submissive behaving that way, with the sort of hands on hips and stuck-out tongue, well, ok.  Go for it.

However, please keep her or him away from me, because I will not find it charming or cute or adorable.

I will mostly think the submissive poorly behaved and the dominant not demanding enough.

Again, ...

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Questions for Dominants 07

October 8, 2012 Uncategorized  6 comments

I finally feel pretty much back to normal, after a three hour nap yesterday afternoon AND today, as well as a full night’s sleep last night.

So, back to the questions:

8.      How many collars have you given in your life?  What are your requirements for giving a collar?

I have given four collars all together in my life.

The first collar I gave was to my first submissive, Bill, because, well, that was what you did, right?

Bill was a nice enough man who would have been happier playing around, but that was ok, too.  He was around about six months, I think.

Then there was Gene, who also had a collar.  Gene was fun.  He was big and good looking and simple and liked pain pretty well and had the thinnest skin, literally, in the world...

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I Lived

October 7, 2012 Uncategorized  2 comments

So, I lived through it.

I have been putting on events long enough to have two very simple gauges of how successful an event was.

If, at the end of it, no one is in the hospital or in jail, it was successful.

Ergo, it was a successful event.

What I AM is hoarse from talking so much, and talking in loud places

I am sore and achy, from tension and stress and being on my feet all evening, on concrete floors.

My eye, which had not been twitching, has decided to twitch this morning, and I feel like my eyes have a coating of gravel on them.

We closed up shop about 2am, came home and sat up kind of decompressing until 3am or so, and then I had trouble sleeping.  Too much adrenaline still coursing.

So, the munch was fun...

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Post Event

October 7, 2012 Uncategorized  No comments

Which is not, fortunately, post Apocalypse.

The event went well.

We were at a swinger’s party and the swingers spent more time on our side than theirs and I suspect we have a few converts.

We have sold the majority of our t-shirts.  We have a few left, but not what we started with.

We won’t know until the treasurer gives us a report, but we made money.  I made about $15 beating people at three strokes for a dollar.  We sold tons of cookies and cupcakes and pies.  We sold Tarot readings and henna tattoos and I have a kiss tattoo between my breasts.

And now it is nearly 3am and to say I am tired is an understatement.

More tomorrow.



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October 5, 2012 Uncategorized  4 comments

I’ve been thinking a lot about chemistry lately.

No, not the kind of chemistry where you memorize periodic tables or need a Bunsen burner to conduct experiments. The kind of chemistry that you find periodically with other people.

The thing about chemistry is, in my experience, you don’t find it, it finds you. It seems, too, that the appropriateness of the relationship has little to do with the level of chemistry.

I’ve also noticed that it often doesn’t seem like it would make sense when you’re looking on from the outside.

Chemistry is like a spark in a tinder box. It’s like suddenly cresting a hill and seeing the vista appear before you, so sharp and striking that it takes your breath away. Losing your breath is a good thing, at times.

I’ve always believed that life is about expe...

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October 4, 2012 Uncategorized  4 comments

In the end the only thing any of us really has is our time.

We cut time up into chunks, dice it into manageable pieces, minutes, hours, days, weeks, months, years…

I remember when I was in my teens someone said to me, “The older I get, the longer the days are and the shorter the weeks.” Obviously that’s perception, but isn’t it true?

We have so many pressures on our time. Family, work, relationships, hobbies, chores; the things we must do, the things we should do, the things we’d like to do.

I make lists when I feel overwhelmed with the things I need to accomplish. I have made a lot of lists lately.

Sometimes I’ll find a list I made months ago and it’s usually true that I’ve not accomlished everything on my list.

Sometimes I’ve done more than other times, sometimes most of it is done, but ...

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A Short Post

October 3, 2012 Uncategorized  6 comments

This will not be a long blog.

This weekend is the 15th anniversary of the Louisville munch and our kick off fundraiser for the community center, Fringe Elements.

I did not pursue the position at all, but was asked to take the position of Executive Director for this.  I took on the role, and we have been working on it for six months now.

Three of us started out, then we added one, then another, and now another, so now there are six.

Tomorrow, we have to set up for the fundraiser on Saturday.

We will have play furniture and carnival games and vendors and a bake sale.

I have gone through prizes tonight, sorted and assessed.

We’ve ordered t-shirts.

We’ve arranged for the venue.

I’ve arranged for equipment, and bodies for set up.

And, of course, fielded complaints that things are not free, tha...

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October 2, 2012 Uncategorized  10 comments

There’s been a lot of comments and blog posts about what I would interpret as a very sanctimonious and unkind, not to mention uncalled for, comment on another blog.

I think the blog where the comment was made has really had enough comments there and I didn’t want to add to the furor.

I don’t, however, have a bit of problem quoting the anonymous post that was made.  Normally, I would request permission, but since they chose not to identify themselves, well, gee.

It said, in total:

“Anonymous said…

With all due respect, did you really expect a relationship from two people who are cheating on their spouses to last? I’m sorry if that’s harsh, but affairs never work out in the end.”

Later, when the comment was not greeted with equally sanctimonious glee, this was the response:

“Anonymous said…

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