Category Kink and BDSM

More Coming Out

February 23, 2017 Bluegrass Leather PrideDominanceKink and BDSM  One comment

Probably the hardest thing to do is show someone else your truest face, the real you, the one without the lipstick and makeup, prettied up for company.

One of the things I most value about kink relationships is that very thing.  Being able to how someone the parts of your personality that are not always thought of as positives, and having them accept it.

The reasons to come out are as varied as the things revealed.  I know that for me, when I come out to someone, one of the biggest reasons is that I’m not great at compartmentalization, either in my personality and my life.  I am what I am.

For instance, no one I told I was a dominatrix ever said, “Wow!  Seriously?  I’d never have guessed.”

Usually it’s more in the vein of “You know, this explains a LOT…”

I come out, too, because I f...

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Coming Out

February 21, 2017 Kink and BDSMLeather  No comments

Coming out seems to be the theme for the week.

This weekend at least two people I consider my family came out to their families.  In one case, it went as well as could be expected, the other one was, I think, more difficult and had a less comfortable outcome, at least so far.

Coming out is really about how much of our real faces we show to the people around us.  It’s about trusting people with the knowledge of who we really are, the authentic person living inside the skin.

Coming out is scary, because there’s always fear of repercussions.  If they see our real faces, perhaps they’ll turn away rather than look at them.

And they might.  Most of us know people whose coming out did not go well, disowned at worst and distanced at best from those they told who they were.

I’ve been lucky...

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Sit by an Apple Tree

September 4, 2016 Kink and BDSMMemoriesRelationships  No comments

“Life will break you. Nobody can protect you from that, and living alone won’t either, for solitude will also break you with its yearning. You have to love. You have to feel. It is the reason you are here on earth. You are here to risk your heart. You are here to be swallowed up. And when it happens that you are broken, or betrayed, or left, or hurt, or death brushes near, let yourself sit by an apple tree and listen to the apples falling all around you in heaps, wasting their sweetness. Tell yourself you tasted as many as you could.”
― Louise Erdrich, The Painted Drum LP

I found that quote lately, and I’ve gone back and read it multiple times.

I love the image of so many apples, falling all around you, wasting their sweetness, and really, isn’t that what much of the world seems to d...

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Another Busy Weekend

August 22, 2016 EventsKink and BDSM  2 comments

This weekend was one that had no big plans, and yet managed to keep me busy all weekend.

On Friday, I had dinner with two of my folks, Poodle and the boi, and yes, I am aware, it sounds like children’s book, and LE, our current American Leather Woman, who was in town for a few days.  Friday we mostly took off, though we did things around the house.

Saturday was the usual yard sales in the morning, at which my find for the day was this:

$6 Coat

It is a lambskin, lined, in perfect condition, and the price was $5.99.  I was quite happy.

After yard sales, it was off to lunch with local folks, and the food and the company were both more than enjoyable.

Then last night I went to a bar with a bunch of hot guys…

AAGuys

I want to point out that I do NOT have my hands on any of their dicks.

Just saying…

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Respect, Part Deux

August 18, 2016 DominanceKink and BDSMSubmissives  No comments

So, the issue was respect.  I had said that I realized that not everyone would approve of me or my choices, past and present.

I said I was, in fact, “a virtual immorality trifecta.”

I did like that turn of phrase.

So, I can’t control someone’s opinion of me.  All I can do is decide for myself what is right and wrong and behave accordingly.  The opinion anyone else holds of me is irrelevant.

What is relevant is my opinion of myself.  I have to look myself in the eyes every night, and wake up to myself every morning.  I know all my worst qualities, the pettiness and unkindness that lives there, as it does with anyone.

You know that part of yourself you don’t like to admit to...

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August of 2016

August 13, 2016 Kink and BDSM  4 comments

So, here it is August of 2016, and mid-August at that.  The year is nearly two-thirds over, and summer is beginning to look a little ragged, the way you feel at the end of too long a night of too good of a time.  Leaves are a little brown around the edges, most of the flowers have come and gone, and the fall flowers, asters and mums, are still biding their time to make a showy appearance in a month or so.

I finally have this blog up and running again, but due to my own stupidity, my backup only went back to the swap over from the original WordPress site, but not what I’d added again.  I do have copies of them, just not in the format they were originally created.  My plan, then, is to begin to post them, again, probably interspersed with new work.

You can see my snazzy book on the rig...

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Commands

January 5, 2013 DominanceKink and BDSMRelationships  9 comments

One of the topics that’s been discussed some lately is the fact that sometimes dominants give commands that don’t quite seem like commands.

aisha talked about commands that were almost couched as suggestions, as did faithful in her blog.

I suppose that must seem very odd to submissives, that we do that.  We can, so easily it seems, just give that command.

We can TELL you what to do.

So why don’t we just TELL you sometimes?

There’s often a reason, you know.

You could do your child’s math homework.  You know, at least one hopes you know, how to do fractions.  If you were looking to solve the problem of the answer to the equation of 2 2/3 times 3 and 3/8ths, you understand the process.

You find the common denominator and translate the equations into those common denominators, you multiply ...

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Quiet Saturday

December 29, 2012 EventsKink and BDSMMemoriesslave drew  7 comments

I’ve not felt very well for a couple of days, a stomach thing that was minor but didn’t feel minor, but I’m feeling closer to myself now, though still not 100%.

I’ve had a quiet couple of days, not doing much, not going anywhere, other than slave drew and I going out today to the mall.  He wanted to look for something  and I went along.  I found a couple of things at good after-Christmas prices, so it was worthwhile.

We made a quick grocery run, too, and now we’re home until we head to see slave drew’s brother, his wife, and their two children tomorrow evening.  Then we have one more gathering

Other than that, I’ve spent the day at home, and I have no complaints about that, either.

It snowed last night, so I got up to a very pretty world, the kind with a couple of inches of very wet sn...

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Apocalypse How?

December 21, 2012 Kink and BDSMKink CommunityKink Events  4 comments

Ok, so it’s a cheap shot.  Neither slave drew nor I had to get up especially early this morning so we were lying in bed chatting.

I’d had an odd dream – I’ve had a string of them lately, nothing bad, just one of those odd ones, and I told him about it, and then commented that we were still here, so there was, at least thus far, no apocalypse, and I told him that the title of my blog yesterday was “Apocalypse Now?”

“And if I were a cattle rancher, it would have been Apocalypse Cow…”

“And if I were a pig farmer, it would have been Apocalypse Sow…”

“And if I were a boat builder, it would have been Apocalypse Prow…”

“If you were a chef, it would have been Apocalypse Chow…”

“And if I were a farmer, it would have been Apocalypse Plow…”

“And if I were a Quaker, it would have been Apocalypse Thow...

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My Weekend – Part 3

December 4, 2012 Kink and BDSMKink CommunityKink Events  No comments

It seems like the weekend is taking nearly as long to tell about as it took to live through it, doesn’t it?

So what happened next?

When last we saw our hero, she had just presented Leather and been presented her own pin.

I should mention, or perhaps I shouldn’t, that I actually spent the entire event in a pair of white Scottie slippers.  Fuzzy ones.

I also wore my Santa hat the entire time I presented Leather.

Along with the Scottie slippers.

It’s a really NICE Santa hat, if that makes a difference.

Anyway, once that was over, the event proper was kicked off.

And how did we do that, you might ask?

Let me set the scene.

The supporting players are Elf Devon and Panty Claus.

Elf Devon is an adorable boy, who was dressed in an elf’s vest, hat and ass-less undies...

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