Category Kink and BDSM

My Weekend – Part 2

December 3, 2012 EventsKink and BDSMKink CommunityKink EventsLeather  2 comments

So, when last I left, we were at the Bizarre Bazaar and the party was about to start.

Actually, before it started, I took the opportunity to have the fabulous Sir Markos take some photos of me with slave drew for our Christmas picture.

He did a wonderful job and we ended up with at least three contenders for the position.  I think it will end up being the one I posted last night, which I am referring to as “Peekaboo,” since I seem to be leaning to one side.

Later in the evening I had him take a few absolutely priceless photos with Elf Devon, one of which I posted here yesterday, too.

One of the things that has been important to me over the last few years is the bringing back of the tradition of earned Leather...

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My Weekend – Part 1

December 2, 2012 Kink and BDSMKink CommunityKink EventsUncategorized  5 comments

So, I finally have time to talk about my very very busy weekend.

We have been preparing for our party for a month, at least.  It’s actually probably more work than one might think.  We don’t just decide to throw a party and then in a sort of 1930 Hollywood movie, the production number all comes together.

Can’t you see it?

The starlet rips off her square-shouldered pinafore and clunky-heeled shoes to reveal a patent bra top, super short skirt and thigh-high boots.

The hero’s bow tie morphs into a collar, and his clipboard into a paddle.

Their best friends – you know, the chubby, funny ones, the ones who would be played by Melissa McCarthy and Jack Black, would start wheeling out furniture, while singing something about Sweet Dreams or something...

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Saturday Night

December 1, 2012 Kink and BDSMKink CommunityKink Events  3 comments

So, I really thought I’d get a post done today.

First I woke up with a screaming leg cramp.  Ick.

Then I sort of dragged around until slave drew and I went and had some lunch.

Then we came home and took a three hour nap.

Then it was time to dress and go to the munch.

Then it was time to go to the gay Leather bar for their event.

And now it’s 11:30 and I am beyond tired.

I’ll have a real post soon.  After I sleep.

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A Reader Question

November 28, 2012 Kink and BDSMKink Community  7 comments

At least, I think it’s a reader, if not, I don’t know how he’d have found me.  Even if he’s not, it’s a sort of universal question.

He said that he’d been in contact lately with a slave, and now he was interested in being more involved in the community.  I am paraphrasing, since I don’t have permission to quote him, but that’s the gist of it.

First, I think that it’s a good and genuinely important thing to have some contact with the community.  I know that the life I live is not for everyone, or even for many, but you can have some involvement without being totally immersed.

I want to say, too, that I think that online communities do count, even if they’re different than face-to-face.

I think that communities do a couple of things for us.

I think it matters enormously to have people wit...

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Kink First – My First Munch

November 25, 2012 Kink and BDSMKink CommunityLouisville MunchMemories  2 comments

I bet you thought I’d forgotten this thread, huh?

Nah, I just got caught up with the holiday and the dining room renovation, and all that kind of distractions.

So, anyway, the first munch I ever went to was in Lexington, Kentucky.  It would have been the summer, probably June or July, of 1997.

I don’t know that it was called a munch, I honestly don’t remember.

I had ended my previous relationship and now had the ability to do what I wanted and I wanted to find a community of some kind.

The munch was held at a horrible Ryan’s Steak House, and a couple named Denise and Jeff were running it at the time.

There weren’t a lot of people there, maybe 20 or so.  I guess I knew a couple of people already from online...

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An Embarrassment of Riches

November 18, 2012 Kink and BDSMKink CommunityLouisville Munchslave drew  2 comments

So, we had the Special Interest Group this afternoon.  This is our sort of annual business meeting.

In November, we talk about potential changes for the next year and set our topics.

In December, we have a fun topic, but this time we’re going to do a Kinky Gift Exchange.

It’s a game you may well have played at an office party or family gathering.  You bring a wrapped present, in this case something under $10.  If there are 20 people there, you write the numbers one through 20 on pieces of paper, and each person chooses a number.

The person who draws number 1 picks a package and opens it.  Person 2 then has a choice to take the item that Person 1 has, or open a different package.

If he takes one of the previously opened gifts, then the person whose gift has been “stolen,” can choose to ...

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Kink First – My First Event

November 16, 2012 EventsKink and BDSMKink CommunityMemoriesSubmissivesTravelsUncategorized  7 comments

I’ve talked before about my first event, which was Black Rose 10, in November of 1997.

It was called Black Rose 10 because it was a party to celebrate the tenth anniversary of the Black Rose organization, out of Washington, D.C.

My submissive at the time was Bill, who lived outside Chicago and was some minor Republican elected official, one that sent him to Washington on a fairly regular basis.

Who knows, maybe he wasn’t so minor of an official.  If I could only remember anything other than Bill, I might be able to find out, but then, I’d have to be particularly interested, too, and I’m not, so there’s that.

Anyway, Bill spent enough time in D.C. that he knew about BR and knew about the party, and wanted to go and wanted me to go with him.

I don’t know what I expected, or what I knew abou...

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Kink First – My First Scene

November 15, 2012 Kink and BDSMMemoriesSubmissives  11 comments

So, perhaps this is a bad title because, to be truthful, I don’t remember my first scene.

But doesn’t it seem like the next kind of first?

So, anyway, though I don’t remember it, there are things I do remember about those kind of firsts.

I remember my first girlfriend kind of ashamedly asking me to tie her to the bed.

I remember not being disturbed by it.  I don’t know that I had ever thought of it before, not really, but it didn’t shock or worry me.  It was more of a sense of, Oh, ok, well this is interesting, I wonder how you tie someone to a bed..?

I figured it out, btw.

I now have to re-rope my bed every five or six years.

You know, the rope slips or starts to fray or drops to some impossible to retrieve place…

The usual.

Anyway, I remember she really liked it.

I remember I let her o...

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Kinky Bloggers at Bluegrass Leather Pride

November 14, 2012 Kink and BDSMKink CommunityKink EventsLeather ContestsPlay Parties  15 comments

So, my friend aisha and I had talked for a bit about having a Kinky Bloggers Convention.

You can find her blog here.

Anyway, she mentioned it on a blog, and I pointed out that it’s actually pretty easy to make that happen, because I already have an event planned for March 1-3, in Louisville, Kentucky.

That event is Bluegrass Leather Pride, and it will open with a Meet and Greet/Reception traditionally held in a bar, on Friday night.

There we’ll have classes during the day on Saturday, the 2nd.  We’ll break for the Louisville Munch, then come back for the actual Bluegrass Leather Pride contest, followed by a play party.

I’ll also have a keynote speech, and I’m not sure when it will be, it might be at a Sunday brunch of during the contest,

The contest will be entertaining, if nothing else...

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Kink First – My First Threesome

November 13, 2012 Kink and BDSMKink CommunityKinky Sex  13 comments

What do you think it says about me as a person that I can’t really quite remember which one my first threesome was?

I *think* it was a sort of sex-and-kink lite experience with my submissive at the time, Gene, and a woman in the community way back when.

I remember we tied him to my bed naked and rather rolled around on him, doing various kind and unkind things to him, as whim and location dictated.

He seemed to enjoy quite a bit.

But there wasn’t any real sex involved, as there wasn’t any real kink involved.  Neither fish nor fowl, as it were.

I don’t think I’ve ever had a threesome with two men, which is, I suppose, rather surprising, all things considered.  Never happened that it happens.

I had a threesome with two of my married friends, J and m...

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