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R-E-S-P-E-C-T, Find out what it means to me, R-E-S-P-E-C-T, Take care, TCB…
So, I was thinking about respect. We make that such a tenet of our construct here, and respect is one of our cornerstones.
Everybody wants respect. Sometimes, anyway.
Respect is not a lengthy list of specific rules and regulations centering on how you expect to be treated.
It’s a reflection of the way you feel about other people as demonstrated by your behavior towards them.
By the same token, honor is not an empty term to be dusted off as convenient then returned to the shelf when it comes to one’s own behavior.
I cannot control the actions of the general public, nor do I plan to try.
I cannot walk around with a rule book that I pass out before someone speaks to me so they are certain to afford me the respect ...Read More
We had our second open meeting for Fringe Elements tonight.
We had expected more people than actually showed, but that was fine, too. We had about 25 people, I think, plus the six of us who sit on the Board of Directors.
We had set it up so we talked about the venue search, our financials, marketing, administration and volunteers.
We’ve been searching for a venue since we started and have had no luck. We’ve found places that didn’t work for various reasons – location, structure, access, ownership, neighbors, etc., etc., etc.
We talked about having looked at 113 venues, and dealt with something like 90 agents.
We actually have a viewing scheduled for Monday, too.
We talked about our finances, where we were, how much we’d made and from where.
In addition, we talked about how many meeting...Read More
So we had our SIG meeting this afternoon and the topic, which had been requested in our topic listing, was Leather History.
I did a bit of prep for the meeting, which included going through the Leather Archives and Museum Leather History Timeline. If you’re interested you can find that here.
I pulled out items that I thought were particularly interesting from that time line:
1954: Satyrs MC founded in Los Angeles, the first gay motorcycle club.
1955, Sept. 21: The Daughters of Bilitis, the first Lesbian organization in America, is formed in San Francisco.
1958: Oedipus MC founded in Los Angeles, the second gay motorcycle club.
1958, June: Chuck Renslow becomes manager of The Gold Coast in Chicago and creates the first Leather Bar.
1960, March 16: The Gold Coast...Read More
Had I been smart, I would have written a blog post before heading out to the Fringe Elements Taster’s Choice party last night.
I thought of that about the same time I realized that I had forgotten the mascara. It was too late to go back and do it by then.
So the party went well. We had about 120 people, which is a good sized party. Our class lineup was Rope Bondage by Robyn, Boot Massage by Bootblack Bella, Therapeutic Massage by Kristin, Intro to Canes by Ms Constance – yours truly – Intro to Flogging by GypsyPony, Hot Safe Sex by Leather Queer, Intro to Electrical Play by Sir Russ, Intro to Knife Play by Sir Charles, Rough Body Play by Walter Sobchak, Intro to Needles by Ms Tammy, Intro to Littles Play by Johnnie and Maggie, and Massage for Doms by Shawna the Dead.
Most classes ran...Read More
Tonight slave drew and I had dinner with aisha and her Sir, and that was lovely. Dinner was fabulous, surpassed only by the conversation, and now we are home again.
I have goals for the next few days in particular. I need to get my kitchen and dining room back in order after the festivities of the holidays. I have a return or two to handle.
I have 89 unread messages in my inbox, and another 20 that are read but not responded to. I need to go through that and get that cleaned up.
I need to finalize some things for the next Fringe Elements, here: https://fetlife.com/events/139972
I need to do some work for Bluegrass Leather Pride, and also for Great Lakes Leather Alliance. I need some desk time, basically.
There are two munches this weekend, so there’s that, too.
Maybe I’ll get t...Read More
Tonight was a party again, I know that shocks you all, though I think I’ve had more invitations this year than ever before. Some years I honestly do one party, maybe, and that’s about it.
This was a largish party at the home of Charles and jacki, two of my favorite people. I’ve no idea how many people were actually there, but I bet it was 40, if you counted everyone who was there for at least a while.
I brought home much loot, all of it cool.
Charles and jacki gave me a lovely scarf in shades of red and purple, that I really like a lot. If you know me personally, you’re likely to see me wearing it because I do like it muchly.
There was also a theme of sharp things – who could have guessed?
The wooden pie shape is a really nifty cheese board, with particularly coo...Read More
Ok, so it’s a cheap shot. Neither slave drew nor I had to get up especially early this morning so we were lying in bed chatting.
I’d had an odd dream – I’ve had a string of them lately, nothing bad, just one of those odd ones, and I told him about it, and then commented that we were still here, so there was, at least thus far, no apocalypse, and I told him that the title of my blog yesterday was “Apocalypse Now?”
“And if I were a cattle rancher, it would have been Apocalypse Cow…”
“And if I were a pig farmer, it would have been Apocalypse Sow…”
“And if I were a boat builder, it would have been Apocalypse Prow…”
“If you were a chef, it would have been Apocalypse Chow…”
“And if I were a farmer, it would have been Apocalypse Plow…”
“And if I were a Quaker, it would have been Apocalypse Thow...Read More
So, it had come to my attention lately that someone I didn’t know particularly well was not going to be able to provide much Christmas for the five children, all under ten, in their household, due to reasons of bad luck and bad health.
Four of the children are theirs, one is the daughter of a recently-killed friend, who, along with her father, is also living with them for lack of another option.
I recognize that there are others out there in worse or similar situations, but these came to my attention.
My own father died when I was quite small, and I am very acquainted with being a child who gets few presents for Christmas, and practical ones at that. New pajamas because they were needed, new socks because they were needed.
She had told me that the children were being very good about not ...Read More
I went to two gift exchanges in two days and had a good time at both.
We went to my friends Donald and Chris’ party last night. I’ve been going to that same party for a decade or more now. It’s a fund-raiser for the residents of the House of Ruth, a local AIDS hostel.
It’s also always fun. Some years it’s been quite large, last night it was smaller, but it was quite pleasant to have time to visit with the folks who were there.
We always do a gift exchange at the party and it’s one of those where you can choose to open a new gift, or steal a revealed gift from someone else.
I have learned over the years to always steal if it’s possible, and if there’s nothing that really strikes your fancy, then take the most popular present even if it’s nothing you particularly want.
Because someone ...Read More
My candle burns at both ends;
It will not last the night;
But ah, my foes, and oh, my friends—
It gives a lovely light.
Edna St. Vincent Millay
That’s a bit how I feel tonight. I have, I fear, been burning my candle at both ends and I am paying the price, such as it is, at the moment.
I’m still fighting that cold and the cold is, tonight at least, winning.
We had a Fringe Elements Board meeting last night and I talked a lot for three hours or so.
Then I made what I thought would be a quick customer service call for a domain issue, and it took 45 minutes, which was good because I got something settled, but still it was 45 minutes of talking.
I stayed up too late because I couldn’t sleep and then got up pretty early because all three dogs badly needed to get to the groomer.