October 28, 2012 Uncategorized
Today has been a pretty busy day.
My first class today was the class for newcomers, which I do a lot and
always enjoy doing. It’s always interesting to see the people who
come in to that class, and what they’re novices TO, as well.
We had some folks who were part of their local munches and some who
were not. There weren’t, they said, munches or gatherings where they
lived, though that’s always hard for me to believe now days, but
perhaps it’s true.
We talked about going to events, and trying to attend the classes you
can. We talked, too, about trying a lot of different things when
you’re new, and reaching out to people who have been around longer.
Overall, I thought it was an interesting class that went well.
I had a break between my class and the next commitment, so I wanderedRead More
through the vendor ...
October 26, 2012 Uncategorized
slave drew and I arrived at Kinky Kollege this afternoon in good time.
The drive wasn’t bad, other than that middle-of-Chicago part where it
takes a half hour to go three miles.
It was very Chicago-like.
We saw Jack Rinella first, at the registration desk. We’re at a very
We got to the room and got somewhat settled, then went downstairs to
the registration for the event. We got through that and then went to
the restaurant upstairs to get a late lunch. drew had a lovely pasta
with goat cheese and I had a bowl of lobster bisque with blue crabmeat
It was quite nice.
Then we scurried up to the room to grab the bags of crops and canes
for the class I was giving at 4:00 on, yes, crops and canes.
So, we are heading to the classroom and walk by a couple or three bagsRead More
of trash wa...
October 25, 2012 Uncategorized
So, slave drew and I head out tomorrow for Kinky Kollege, at which I am presenting.
I am doing a class on Canes and Crops, and one on Edge Play, as well as a Newcomer’s Class.
I still haven’t gotten a demo bottom for the canes class. I can have drew do it, of course, but I will likely just ask for a volunteer and I doubt I will have to ask twice.
It’s only the second time I’ve done the Canes and Crops class, but it was a lot of fun last time and I’ve been doing impromptu cane classes for years anyway, so a lot of it isn’t really new, I just haven’t done the class formally.
The edge play class is fun, partially because it’s not the class people expect...Read More
October 24, 2012 Uncategorized
I spent last Saturday night in Lexington, Kentucky.
I watched Sam Clemons step down from the Mr. Bluegrass Leather title, and watched Todd Maynard awarded the title of Mr Bluegrass Leather 2012. Todd will go on to International Mr. Leather in May.
It was a great event and I was sorry to miss the Friday night Meet and Greet, which was held at Crossings Bar, one of the sponsors. It was, to quote a friend who went, “packed,” and a good time was, I feel certain, had by all.
I got to town with Robyn from Indy, who is the current Indiana Olympus titleholder, about 2pm. We ended up riding together, which was nice.
There was a great buffet contributed by Ms Tammy, and we sat and ate and chatted for a while, then the outgoing titleholder roast began...Read More
October 23, 2012 Uncategorized
We had a Board meeting tonight for Fringe Elements.
We’re putting on a play party on November 30, but we’ll be doing some different things, too. We’ll have more vendors this time, for one.
We’ll have a kinky Santa available to have pictures taken with, either on his lap or across it, complete with kinky elf and Ms Clause. I believe the names assigned were Santa-Homo and Panty Clause.
The gay guy playing Santa, Josh, came up with the Santa-Homo name, no letters, please.
I have claimed my holiday identity of Candy Cane. You know my fondness for canes, after all.
We’ll have a bootblack, and play equipment, and some silent auction items, as well as another bake sale, because everyone, after all, likes cookies.
I’ll also be presenting Earned Leather there...Read More
October 22, 2012 Uncategorized
I was surprised when I just looked to find that I seem to have gone through all my questions. I don’t know if that’s good or bad that I didn’t know.
I think this was at least an interesting exercise for me. I don’t know that it was particularly enlightening for anyone else, but it you pays your money and you takes your chances, as they say.
I suspect I might do a similar sort of thing again in a bit, but I’ll probably focus on a different topic, like relationships or community. We shall see.
I haven’t finished processing the weekend yet, so I’ll give that another day to stew around.
We’ll do another party for the community center, Fringe Elements. It should be a fun event, and we’ll meet tomorrow to plan it. The last one went well and we’ve made some improvements for the next time.
October 21, 2012 Uncategorized
So, I tend to take fits and starts with social network sites. Some of them are more kinky, some of them are more vanilla. Sometimes I spend time on them regularly, sometimes I set them aside and pretty much ignore them for a few weeks, then check back.
So I’ve been doing that over the last couple of days, and because I’ve been ON the site recently, I always get a new batch of emails from people.
Well, from men. Women almost never write me on those sites, which is fine, given that I’m pretty straight now.
So, I went through three sites this weekend and in every one of them, there’s basically the same message:
“I’ve contacted you before and you never respond so I guess you’re not interested. I’m a nice guy, really, give me a chance, I think you’re pretty/hot/beautiful/a babe...Read More
October 20, 2012 Uncategorized
18. Have you ever had a significant online D/s relationship?
I actually have had a few D/s relationships that were online long ago, before I was in a position to do things in person so much.
I had a couple of online submissives, one of whom was, at the time, significant to me, though I barely remember him now. I ran across a picture of him he’d sent me a few years ago and genuinely looked at it blankly for the first 30 seconds, having no idea who he was.
I lost track of him entirely probably 15 years ago. I remember he was a big Boston Patriots fan and actually cared when they won or lost, which at the time was very odd to me.
I had a sort of mentor for a longish time online, again before I had other options. He actually was very influential on me, in a lot of ways.
Much of my...Read More
October 18, 2012 Uncategorized
17. Do you have rituals and protocols that you require your submissive(s) to follow?
It’s funny, I do classes on rituals and I do love them, but I don’t use as many as people expect, I imagine.
I have to say one of the very few rituals that I really do expect is that I expect them not to eat until I have taken a bite. drew rarely forgets, and apologizes if he does.
I don’t normally test them, but I do pay attention to that. I will overlook the occasional slip without comment, but if it became frequent or regular, it would be brought up.
My slaves don’t call me by my first name unless it’s in a place where it would be odder not to, and drew often calls me Mistress around vanilla types, too, because he’s so used to it he forgets...Read More
October 17, 2012 Uncategorized
15. How many people in your social circle, if any, are aware of your lifestyle?
For me, this is kind of an obvious question because I talk so much about it, but it’s far less common to NOT know about my lifestyle.
drew’s family does not definitively know, though I think it’s clear that we’re different. I have told his brother’s wife that I direct the relationship, that’s what we agreed, but I leave it at that.
The brother in Scotland doesn’t know. Although he could figure out if he paid attention to my Facebook, so I don’t know if he does or doesn’t, I suppose.
Hmm. My 90 year old Aunt Jo, who still cleans houses because she likes to “keep busy,” doesn’t know. My 85 year old Aunt Mary also doesn’t know.
Work associates from prior jobs know in some cases, in some cases not...Read More