August 13, 2016 Kink and BDSM
So, here it is August of 2016, and mid-August at that. The year is nearly two-thirds over, and summer is beginning to look a little ragged, the way you feel at the end of too long a night of too good of a time. Leaves are a little brown around the edges, most of the flowers have come and gone, and the fall flowers, asters and mums, are still biding their time to make a showy appearance in a month or so.
I finally have this blog up and running again, but due to my own stupidity, my backup only went back to the swap over from the original WordPress site, but not what I’d added again. I do have copies of them, just not in the format they were originally created. My plan, then, is to begin to post them, again, probably interspersed with new work.
You can see my snazzy book on the rig...Read More
It was a busy, albeit fun, weekend.
On Friday night we were in the Gay Pride Parade, on our Leather Pride “float.”
Our Leather Pride float was the truck belonging to my current Master and slave couple, Steve and kim, with their car trailer attached.
We used bungee cords to secure camp folding chairs back to back down the middle, about a dozen of them. People rode in the back of the truck, too. We had a Fringe Elements banner, and signs for Bluegrass Leather Pride, and a Leather Pride flag.
We also had scented bubbles and cans of silly string.
We met in a lot behind one of the local gay bars, and waited for a bit, then moved into the sort of pre-staging area, which worked out really well for us because it was a very sunny day and could have been unpleasantly hot, but we were under an ov...Read More
All right, so I am here and more or less back to normal.
I haven’t unpacked, of course. I’m still working on pictures, but I’m closer now.
I’m still processing, I think.
One of the things that was funny was how many people from Louisville were at International Mr. Leather.
We left for Chicago about 1 or so. Chicago traffic is always challenging, though I was not driving, which is always a plus to me.
I went with Jay and Karen, my Leather SIR and Leather Ms. Neither of them had ever been to IML before.
We were staying a ways out because I had gotten a deal on a hotel room, thanks to a friend...Read More
May 29, 2013 Fringe Elements
Which I really wanted out last night, but that clearly did not happen.
I set myself a tight deadline and knew it would be painful, and it was.
But I think it’s done.
However, I still have to dash out on the last dog run of the evening for my friends, and by then, it will be late, and I am still working on photos.
Other than that, though, I’ve been lounging. Obviously.
I had a great time at International Mr. Leather.
I saw lots of people I knew, met tons of people I didn’t.
I laughed until I cried more than a few times.
I took the train by myself in Chicago, which if you know me makes you afraid for me. I didn’t have any incidents, by the way.
I bought one new toy, nothing fabulous, but a long quirty thing. It was from a vendor I have bought toys from for 15 years, I didn’t have anything like it and it was very inexpensive, particularly for IML.
I had great seats at the contest and took, literally, close to 500 photos, I think, and I need to get through them.
Tonight, I am dead tired, though, and I’m not even going to write a proper blog.
Look for me soon, I swear I will be back.Read More
I have finally gotten all the Kinky Prom photo edited and all but five of the 250-ish I took have been sent out. Three of those I am just waiting on an email address so I can send them out, and two are of a person neither I nor any of the six or eight people I have had look at the picture knew her.
Today and tomorrow, I am *off,” in that I don’t specifically have plans to do anything in the evening.
Of course, it’s also Derby week, and we have two parties planned for this weekend, so it’s not like I’m really slacking off, of course. I do have some paperwork to do, and some emails I need to answer, but I don’t necessarily have to be anywhere or do anything.
After this weekend, too, it will get a bit quieter...Read More
I had one written, I swear.
A decent one.
I was actually proud of myself because I have been so behind, I haven’t commented or responded to comments, I’m a bad person, and I had actually written a post.
I’ve been so busy with Bluegrass and I will be for another three weeks, I’m behind everywhere.
I had it ready, I hit publish.
Usually I cut and paste it to be sure, but I didn’t, of course.
And it’s gone, and I can’t find it and there’s no draft for it and I logged in so I shouldn’t have lost it, but I somehow did.
I might go cry.Read More
February 4, 2013 Relationships
I seem to be doing a whole series here, don’t I?
One of the comments that was made reminded me about another thing that I think is important about finding a new partner.
Sometimes it’s also about letting go of the old partner.
Sometimes that’s one of the harder parts, I think.
There are usually two varieties.
One is, the person who’s ex was SO incredible and SO perfect and SO amazing that it’s hard for anyone else to measure up.
The other is the person who’s ex was SO awful and SO horrible and SUCH a complete asshole that they can’t seem to see past that to anyone else.
The first one is hard, for sure.
When you have to follow a saint, it’s hard to live up to it.
Their former Master or Mistress was the love of their life, the be all and end all of all BDSM and kink, the perf...Read More
February 3, 2013 Relationships
So, I’ve talked about knowing what you want, what you are looking for, what you will compromise on, all that.
I think it’s important to recognize that, however much you might dislike the thought, you may never find the relationship for which you are looking.
Not a happy thought, maybe, but possible.
I think first you need to make a life that you can live, even if you never have anyone else to share it in the way you’d like.
I see people who put their life on hold until…
Until the fabled day when your life becomes perfect, when that life includes the perfect Master and perfect slave, or dominant or submissive, or whatever it is that you put there when you fill in the blanks.
Once you have that, well, then, your life will be perfect and everything will f...Read More
February 2, 2013 Relationships
I’ve been talking about finding a partner, and I’ve spoken mostly about being realistic about what it is you want, and what you have to offer, and about monogamy and non-monogamy.
I want to say, too, that I believe that whatever you want, there’s someone out there who is interested in the same thing.
You don’t have to settle, but you may well have to accept that your pool is smaller than you’d like.
I could have five new submissives by the end of the evening, using only Fetlife and text messages, but how worthwhile would those submissives be?
Many of you submissives who bemoan finding a dominant are not really saying there are NO dominants, they are saying that the dominants out there are not worth your time or effort, and I would agree.
No one ever said it was easy.
Vanilla relationship...Read More