R-E-S-P-E-C-T, Find Out What it Means to Me…

August 17, 2016 DominanceKink CommunityRelationshipsSubmissives  One comment

R-E-S-P-E-C-T, Find out what it means to me, R-E-S-P-E-C-T, Take care, TCB…

So, I was thinking about respect.  We make that such a tenet of our construct here, and respect is one of our cornerstones.

Everybody wants respect.  Sometimes, anyway.

Respect is not a lengthy list of specific rules and regulations centering on how you expect to be treated.

It’s a reflection of the way you feel about other people as demonstrated by your behavior towards them.

By the same token, honor is not an empty term to be dusted off as convenient then returned to the shelf when it comes to one’s own behavior.

I cannot control the actions of the general public, nor do I plan to try.

I cannot walk around with a rule book that I pass out before someone speaks to me so they are certain to afford me the respect ...

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Turns of Phrase

August 15, 2016 Events  No comments

The summer is winding down.  School has already started here, a far cry from when we counted being off from June through August.

I mentioned a few things yesterday, but there is more going on in Louisville.  Our local leather bar, The Barracks, closed last weekend, allegedly to reopen later on.  We still have several other bars that are certainly friendly and welcoming to us, but none would identify as a leather bar.  It was a fun last evening, which was covered here – Great Lakes Den – with some nice photos, including one of yours truly.

The munches continue without interruption.  I usually make the Friday munches, unless I’m out of town, but I don’t make the Saturday ones too often these days, for no reason other than scheduling, and general busy-ness...

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August of 2016

August 13, 2016 Kink and BDSM  4 comments

So, here it is August of 2016, and mid-August at that.  The year is nearly two-thirds over, and summer is beginning to look a little ragged, the way you feel at the end of too long a night of too good of a time.  Leaves are a little brown around the edges, most of the flowers have come and gone, and the fall flowers, asters and mums, are still biding their time to make a showy appearance in a month or so.

I finally have this blog up and running again, but due to my own stupidity, my backup only went back to the swap over from the original WordPress site, but not what I’d added again.  I do have copies of them, just not in the format they were originally created.  My plan, then, is to begin to post them, again, probably interspersed with new work.

You can see my snazzy book on the rig...

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Sunday Evening

June 16, 2013 Bluegrass Leather PrideFringe ElementsKink Events  No comments

It was a busy, albeit fun, weekend.

On Friday night we were in the Gay Pride Parade, on our Leather Pride “float.”

Our Leather Pride float was the truck belonging to my current Master and slave couple, Steve and kim, with their car trailer attached.

We used bungee cords to secure camp folding chairs back to back down the middle, about a dozen of them.  People rode in the back of the truck, too.  We had a Fringe Elements banner, and signs for Bluegrass Leather Pride, and a Leather Pride flag.

We also had scented bubbles and cans of silly string.

We met in a lot behind one of the local gay bars, and waited for a bit, then moved into the sort of pre-staging area, which worked out really well for us because it was a very sunny day and could have been unpleasantly hot, but we were under an ov...

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A Real Post, Sort Of

May 30, 2013 Kink EventsLeatherLeather ContestsUncategorized  No comments

All right, so I am here and more or less back to normal.

I haven’t unpacked, of course.  I’m still working on pictures, but I’m closer now.

I’m still processing, I think.

One of the things that was funny was how many people from Louisville were at International Mr. Leather.

We left for Chicago about 1 or so.  Chicago traffic is always challenging, though I was not driving, which is always a plus to me.

I went with Jay and Karen, my Leather SIR and Leather Ms.  Neither of them had ever been to IML before.

We were staying a ways out because I had gotten a deal on a hotel room, thanks to a friend...

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This Blog was Pre-empted by the Fringe Elements Newsletter

May 29, 2013 Fringe Elements  No comments

Which I really wanted out last night, but that clearly did not happen.

I set myself a tight deadline and knew it would be painful, and it was.

But I think it’s done.

However, I still have to dash out on the last dog run of the evening for my friends, and by then, it will be late, and I am still working on photos.

Other than that, though, I’ve been lounging.  Obviously.

 

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Event Drop

May 28, 2013 Kink EventsLeather  No comments

I had a great time at International Mr. Leather.

I saw lots of people I knew, met tons of people I didn’t.

I laughed until I cried more than a few times.

I took the train by myself in Chicago, which if you know me makes you afraid for me.  I didn’t have any incidents, by the way.

I bought one new toy, nothing fabulous, but a long quirty thing.  It was from a vendor I have bought toys from for 15 years, I didn’t have anything like it and it was very inexpensive, particularly for IML.

I had great seats at the contest and took, literally, close to 500 photos, I think, and I need to get through them.

Tonight, I am dead tired, though, and I’m not even going to write a proper blog.

Look for me soon, I swear I will be back.

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Plans and Things

May 1, 2013 Fringe ElementsGardenWriting  No comments

I have finally gotten all the Kinky Prom photo edited and all but five of the 250-ish I took have been sent out.  Three of those I am just waiting on an email address so I can send them out, and two are of a person neither I nor any of the six or eight people I have had look at the picture knew her.

Today and tomorrow, I am *off,” in that I don’t specifically have plans to do anything in the evening.

Of course, it’s also Derby week, and we have two parties planned for this weekend, so it’s not like I’m really slacking off, of course.  I do have some paperwork to do, and some emails I need to answer, but I don’t necessarily have to be anywhere or do anything.

After this weekend, too, it will get a bit quieter...

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I Lost My Post

February 19, 2013 Leather ContestsSpiritualitySubmissives  No comments

I had one written, I swear.

A decent one.

I was actually proud of myself because I have been so behind, I haven’t commented or responded to comments, I’m a bad person, and I had actually written a post.

I’ve been so busy with Bluegrass and I will be for another three weeks, I’m behind everywhere.

I had it ready, I hit publish.

Usually I cut and paste it to be sure, but I didn’t, of course.

And it’s gone, and I can’t find it and there’s no draft for it and I logged in so I shouldn’t have lost it, but I somehow did.

I might go cry.

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Attracting a Partner, Part 5

February 4, 2013 Relationships  No comments

I seem to be doing a whole series here, don’t I?

One of the comments that was made reminded me about another thing that I think is important about finding a new partner.

Sometimes it’s also about letting go of the old partner.

Sometimes that’s one of the harder parts, I think.

There are usually two varieties.

One is, the person who’s ex was SO incredible and SO perfect and SO amazing that it’s hard for anyone else to measure up.

The other is the person who’s ex was SO awful and SO horrible and SUCH a complete asshole that they can’t seem to see past that to anyone else.

The first one is hard, for sure.

When you have to follow a saint, it’s hard to live up to it.

Their former Master or Mistress was the love of their life, the be all and end all of all BDSM and kink, the perf...

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